Abby Wambach and Thich Nhat Hanh

 I read Abby's book in 1 day. It was simple. Effective.


It was about authenticity, coming out, family - being stepparent, being a wolfpack. Pay inequity.
But also much more. Some take aways

- Creating new paths - women had fought to create the opportunities that she build her whole career on.
- Be grateful and ambitious. and brave, and loud, and persistent. Demand what you deserve.
- Lead from where you are - volunteering, encouraging, supporting, comforting.
- Leadership is the offering you give the world. It is the right and responsibility of all.
- The world needs to see women taking risks, and insist on their right to stick and try again.
- When you score, you better start pointing.
- Being the woman who not only wanted to win, but owned that desire and believed that she could be the one who could make it happen. Give me the effing ball. Give me the effing job. Give me the effing promotion. Give me the respect I deserve.
- Vulnerability and humanity
- Find your pack
- Forget me? - I did not understand this

This book gave me a feel of anger, and fire and rush, almost a very different kind from the next book by Thich Nhat Hanh - 'Art of Communication'

- According to him the goal of communication is to relieve suffering.
- How we speak and what we listen to is our food in communication. This also means what we hear when we talk to ourselves. So it is important to be thoughtful about what we hear and what we say.
- Cow skin
- Going home - within us - we feel warm, comfort, safe and fulfilled. Tidy up this home.
- Non thinking and non talking.
- Focusing on breath, body, walking.
- Connecting to our suffering.
- Listen Deeply - patiently even if the other person is saying something wrong, first listen.
- The purpose of listening to let the other person suffer less
- To understand other's suffering you need to understand your suffering.
- To be compassionate to others, you have to be compassionate to yourself.
- Practice loving speech, loving writing
- truth, no exaggeration, consistency, peaceful language, speak based on the ability of the listener to receive. right time, right place, right content
- Mantras : I am here for you. I am happy you are here. I know you suffer, and I'm here for you. I suffer, please help. I am doing my best. This is a happy moment. You are partly right.
- Wrong perceptions can cause suffering.
- Anger demands being understood.
- Saying hello.
- Changing the past
- Community
- Listening to your inner child
- beginning new
- cue to take a break and regroup - "cake in the refrigerator"
Hard concepts :
- Suffering of our ancestors

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